Voicelessness.com--Philosophy

My primary task is not to 'fix' you, but to 'find' you: the 'you' that existed before the pain of life, especially unfulfilled relationships with family, spouses/partners, and significant others forced you to put up barriers, to limit people’s access, or to choose people who could make little or no contact. I am here to rediscover your unique self, to understand the compromises made to protect this self for the sake of emotional survival, and to encourage relationships where these compromises are no longer necessary.

In my essay section, Voicelessness and Emotional Survival: The Essays (see link to the right), I describe my philosophy: at the root of much emotional suffering is a core self, unseen, unheard, and unloved, a condition I call "voicelessness." Voicelessness leaves people in a bind--they desperately need to find their place in the world, yet their experience with significant others has made this impossible. The resultant helplessness often leads to life-long depression, anxiety, and despair. Solving the problem of voicelessness requires a therapy relationship where one's core self, human and imperfect, is finally seen, heard, and valued.