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Why Do Some People Choose One Bad Relationship After Another? Psychoanalysts, citing Freud's
"pleasure principle", have suggested masochism as the answer. Why else would
people suffer the same pain and humiliation over and over again? Here's another
Why Can't Some People Maintain Intimate Relationships? Many people retreat from close emotional
contact, frustrating spouses and partners. Here's a look at the problem from the
perspective of childhood "voicelessness."
Voicelessness: Narcissism Narcissism is a misnomer. At their core narcissists don't love themselves -- in
fact their self barely exists, and what part does exist is deemed worthless. All
energy is devoted to inflating the self...
Couples Counseling: Is Better Communication Enough? We've read it in all the popular magazines:
better communication leads to a happier marriage. But is better communication
Narcissism (the disorder) vs. Healthy Narcissism What is the difference between pathological narcissism
and "healthy narcissism"?
Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents
Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents: Is Love Enough? Even in situations where love is present,
something critical is missing.
Little Voices Deprived of voice in childhood, some people shrink or twist themselves like a pretzel to fit into
Narcissistic Parents: Voice Wars Some children lacking voice aggressively and self-destructively strive to
regain agency in childhood. Later, these adaptations interfere, often dramatically,
with adult relationships.
The Four Questions Who am I? Do I have any value? Why doesn't anyone see or hear me? Why should
Do Narcissistic Parents Love Their Children? A survey of members of the Voicelessness and Emotional
Survival Message Board.
Depression and the Subtext of Family Life In the psychology of children and adults from narcissistic
families, hidden messages rule.
Giving Your Child "Voice" Fundamental to a child's self-esteem and emotional well being is their sense of
"voice." How do you ensure your child receives this lifelong gift?
Voice Lessons: Littleton, Colorado What can be learned about parenting from the Columbine High School
tragedy? (Guest column reprinted from the Brookline Tab, May 13, 1999 and
excerpted in Massachusetts Psychologist, June, 1999)
Psychotherapy and Humanism Life experience has taught me that humanism plays a critical role in the
Therapy on the High Seas: A Search for Self What happens when an adult child of a narcissistic family
faces progressive heart failure? Consider this account of a man's struggle for
physical and emotional survival.
Dreams, Imagined Dreams--Failed Therapy Therapists can not only heal, they can hurt.
So, You're Thinking of Becoming a Therapist Learning about subtext is critical. Here's an exercise
based upon Robert Frost's poem, "Stopping by the Woods on a Snowy Evening."
Talks and Personal Essays
Vulnerability: The Roots of Compassion Response to the 9/11 terrorist attack (Guest column reprinted
from The Brookline TAB, September 27, 2001)
Bump, Bump, Bump Sometimes life gets off to a rough start--and one can be shaken for life. (Invited talk:
Contemporary Spiritual Experience, Brookline, MA, September, 2002)
Have an Abnormally Good Year! (Invited talk: Contemporary Spiritual Experience, Brookline, MA,
Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Meaning (Invited talk: Contemporary Spiritual Experience, Brookline, MA,
What Dare We Hope? (Invited talk: Contemporary Spiritual Experience, Brookline, MA,
"Reality Book Group" & 3 other short plays
Reality Book Group What's more important: the book or the members? In "Reality Book Group," three college professors invite a book loving ex-convict to join them. Selected from 53 plays written by New England's premier playwrights, "Reality Book Group" was top-billed in the Boston Globe and performed at the 2012 Boston Theater Marathon. The comedy will be print-published in Boston Theater Marathon XIV, 2012 Anthology (Smith & Kraus).
Bluefish Bluefish (and humans): "Once they're hooked, they fight for their lives!" John, an odd, motherless third-grade boy follows his teacher, Ms. Willoughby, everywhere (including the fish store) after learning she is pregnant. And he's telling everyone that Mr. Matthews, the school principal, is the father. "Bluefish," a play about denial, self-deception, and politics, was shortlisted for the 2013 Boston Theater Marathon.
Room with Maintenance “Have a goal for your whole life...a goal for every month, a goal for every week, a goal for every day, a goal for every hour and for every minute..."--- from Tolstoy's "Ten Rules of Life". Harold, an intellectual with a swollen leg, and Frank, a crude carpenter, find themselves locked in a room together after they die. Each reminds the other of his ex-wife. Are they in Heaven, Hell, or someplace entirely different? Why were they "placed" together? And who's going to fix the broken toilet??? "Room with Maintenance" is a religiously incorrect black comedy that examines the nature of human happiness.
Medium Security 2025 The year is 2025, and Linda, the wife of an art history professor, has had enough of her husband Ronald's philandering with students and confronts him (and a coed) at the art museum in front of his favorite painting, Van Gogh's "Postman." "Medium Security 2025" is about, well...medium security, and will be a 2014 Boston Theater Marathon entry.
For books on narcissism and its effects on relationships and families, see the Voicelessness Reading List.
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival
by Richard A. Grossman, Ph.D.