my family member emotionally stalks me she uses others to isolate me within social circles but will not discuss any issues she has directly . I have only just realised she is narcissistic. I was disorientated by the way she does it which is she gets people to befriend me or uses aquaintances to spill family matters about how I hate her or have abused her. . Has anyone had experience like this with a family member with whom they are unable to communicate? She stays very near socially and emotionally I feel. But unable to open up and express direct anger towards me only by proxy. I find I cannot talk to anyone about this. Most of my friends have been approached by her and told how she is scared of me and how I abused her. She is very cold and calculating and capable I think of poisoning or harming others if she can do it with out being detected. She is very very skilled at manipulating people emotionally and socially. She plans and executes revenge in various ways which i think is very different than acting in heat of moment or under duress.