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« Reply #8160 on: July 11, 2018, 04:28:23 PM »
Is it easing up any, Bones?  It's such a difficult place to be sore as well, you can catch yourself with your own arm so easily.  I hope it's eased a bit xx

I just picked my son up from the youth club and there was a fluffy cats convention going on in the park.  Three great big fluffy things, all quite young and so friendly, they all came running over wanting to be stroked and made a fuss of.  I love their trusting natures.  It's so lovely when someone/thing just runs at you expecting you to be nice - no fear or apprehension.  So sweet.  So the walk home took ages because we were distracted by the cute cats :)

I hope you feel better soon (((((((((((((((((((((Bones))))))))))))))))))))))))

Thanks, ((((((((((((((Tupp))))))))))))))))

Those fluffy cats sound so CUTE!!!!!!  AWWWWWWW!!!!!!

I'm still using the ice pack instead of the Tylenol and it seems to be easing up.

Now I have to see the doctor tomorrow because the reports I'm getting through the Patient Portal are both confusing and scary.  I don't know what to expect.
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« Reply #8161 on: July 14, 2018, 11:20:09 AM »
The pathology reports came back but were worded in such a way that the general practitioner and physician's assistant seem to be confused.  Now I'm being referred to a specialist for possible surgery and I'm scared.

There's no one here, face-to-face, that's available to assist me in dealing with this.
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« Reply #8162 on: July 14, 2018, 03:55:42 PM »
Oh Bones, I'm sorry, do you know how long you have to wait to see the specialist now?  Very frustrating that the report was confusing; it's so important to be clear about these things because people need to deal with the situation, whatever it may be, so clear wording is essential.  I'm sorry they haven't made it clear what exactly is going on; it's another worry and an unnecessary one, really, I think people tend to cope better when they know exactly what is happening.  I'm sorry there's no-one there to help, Bones.  I wish I were in a position to be able to come over and help you get things sorted out a bit more easily.  I hope you feel up to posting on here, at least, so we know how you're getting on.  I hope you get some proper answers soon.

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« Reply #8163 on: July 14, 2018, 06:53:47 PM »
Oh Bones, I'm sorry, do you know how long you have to wait to see the specialist now?  Very frustrating that the report was confusing; it's so important to be clear about these things because people need to deal with the situation, whatever it may be, so clear wording is essential.  I'm sorry they haven't made it clear what exactly is going on; it's another worry and an unnecessary one, really, I think people tend to cope better when they know exactly what is happening.  I'm sorry there's no-one there to help, Bones.  I wish I were in a position to be able to come over and help you get things sorted out a bit more easily.  I hope you feel up to posting on here, at least, so we know how you're getting on.  I hope you get some proper answers soon.

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Thanks, Tup.

I'm scheduled to see the specialist this coming Tuesday.  My anxiety is going through the roof.
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« Reply #8164 on: July 20, 2018, 01:58:31 PM »
I've been trying to decompress since I saw the specialist on Tuesday.

The good news.....she informs me that it is called a hamartoma and it is benign.  They want to see me in six months to check on the biopsy site and, if everything checks out okay, then it will be back to yearly check-ups in that regard.

Then Wednesday night, I had to deal with another N-relative that I want to throat-punch!

The last time I spoke with this A$$WIPE was back in 2014 when I informed the idiot that my last sibling, my NGCB, had died.  (A$$WIPE had been frequently blowing up my phone demanding to know the whereabouts of NGCB.  Now A$$WIPE knows.  He's dead, Jim!)  During that conversation, the N-relative went on a racist rant...calling my father the N-word, calling Cousin Barry the N-word, calling all biracial folks the N-word!  I am BIRACIAL, PROUD TO BE BIRACIAL, and I VERBALLY BLASTED the A$$WIPE before terminating the conversation, blocking on Facebook and blocking any incoming e-mails from A$$WIPE!

I had not heard a peep from A$$WIPE until my phone started ringing way past 9:00 PM!  (Folks who know me that if you call after 9:00 at night, it better damn well be an emergency or else they'll encounter the BONES ATTITUDE from the USS ENTERPRISE!)  The Caller ID showed it was A$$WIPE!!!!   :evil:  That pissed me off!  Then I thought, maybe somebody died as there are several cousins much older than I am in various stages of health issues.  Against my better judgement, I answer the phone................................................ with a less than polite:  "WHAT?!?!?!?"  My ire increased when I realized he was either drunk or high on something and I HATE drunk-dialing FOOLS!!!! 

He's spouting all kinds of B.S., which irritated me even more and then he drops this GEM OF STUPIDITY...."I haven't heard from your brother in AGES!!!!  What's he up to?!?!" 

Yeah, he got BLASTED AGAIN and REMINDED...AGAIN...that NGCB DIED IN 2014!"
 
WTF?!?!?!?    :evil:
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« Reply #8165 on: July 21, 2018, 11:50:35 PM »
Bones,
I'm so very glad the growth turned out benign.
I can imagine how anxious the whole wait must've felt.

What a relief!

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« Reply #8166 on: July 22, 2018, 11:07:09 AM »
Bones,
I'm so very glad the growth turned out benign.
I can imagine how anxious the whole wait must've felt.

What a relief!

Hops

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« Reply #8167 on: July 23, 2018, 03:40:27 AM »
Hi Bonesie,

Sorry not to have checked in for a while.  We just moved house so it has been crazy busy plus we were without internet for a few days.  For some reason I thought you were seeing the specialist this Tuesday (tomorrow), not last week.  But I'm very glad to read that everything is benign.  I know getting check ups is a pain but I find they help stop me worrying when I know someone is keeping an eye out on things.  I hope the biopsy area is healing now and not as uncomfortable.

As for that relative - wow.  Did he really not remember that your brother had died?  I seem to remember you posting about this when it originally happened and that you'd been able to block him.  I do remember you saying about him calling people the N word - I hate that word!  Why did he phone, was he just drunk and rambling?  Sometimes technology has its downsides.  I think in the days when people could only communicate by letter and it was delivered on horse back they didn't have to deal with this kind of nonsense.

I hope he leaves you alone now and I'm very glad to hear that the lump isn't dangerous xx

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« Reply #8168 on: July 23, 2018, 07:08:57 AM »
Hi Bonesie,

Sorry not to have checked in for a while.  We just moved house so it has been crazy busy plus we were without internet for a few days.  For some reason I thought you were seeing the specialist this Tuesday (tomorrow), not last week.  But I'm very glad to read that everything is benign.  I know getting check ups is a pain but I find they help stop me worrying when I know someone is keeping an eye out on things.  I hope the biopsy area is healing now and not as uncomfortable.

As for that relative - wow.  Did he really not remember that your brother had died?  I seem to remember you posting about this when it originally happened and that you'd been able to block him.  I do remember you saying about him calling people the N word - I hate that word!  Why did he phone, was he just drunk and rambling?  Sometimes technology has its downsides.  I think in the days when people could only communicate by letter and it was delivered on horse back they didn't have to deal with this kind of nonsense.

I hope he leaves you alone now and I'm very glad to hear that the lump isn't dangerous xx

Thanks, Tupp!

I was so relieved when the nurse practitioner told me it's benign that I started crying in the doctor's office.  I'm glad they are keeping an eye on it and know what they're talking about as opposed to the MEN in the G.P.'s office.  (Long story with that!)

Yeah, Cousin JackA$$ royally pissed me off with his bloody bull$hit!  He's as bad as that tangerine wankmaggot we're stuck with until the next elections!  At one point, during that STUPID phone call, he attempted to invite himself to my doorstep!  (How about F**K NO, drunken jizztrumpet MORON?!?!?)  He spouted off my address, (that I NEVER gave him), so I knew he had done a Google search on me.  If he's DUMBA$$ enough to turn up on my doorstep unwanted, unannounced and UNINVITED, he will be dealing with the local constabulary when I report his drunken A$$ for TRESPASSING!!!

I'll be quoting David Gerrold....GET OFF MY LAWN!!!!!!
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« Reply #8169 on: July 23, 2018, 03:07:24 PM »
Saw this quote on Reddit:

 ďA wise man once told me family donít end in blood, but it doesnít start there either. Family cares about you, not what you can do for them. Familyís there through the good, bad, all of it. They got your back even when it hurts. Thatís familyĒ
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« Reply #8170 on: July 25, 2018, 10:02:03 AM »
Hi Bonesie,

Sorry not to have checked in for a while.  We just moved house so it has been crazy busy plus we were without internet for a few days.  For some reason I thought you were seeing the specialist this Tuesday (tomorrow), not last week.  But I'm very glad to read that everything is benign.  I know getting check ups is a pain but I find they help stop me worrying when I know someone is keeping an eye out on things.  I hope the biopsy area is healing now and not as uncomfortable.

As for that relative - wow.  Did he really not remember that your brother had died?  I seem to remember you posting about this when it originally happened and that you'd been able to block him.  I do remember you saying about him calling people the N word - I hate that word!  Why did he phone, was he just drunk and rambling?  Sometimes technology has its downsides.  I think in the days when people could only communicate by letter and it was delivered on horse back they didn't have to deal with this kind of nonsense.

I hope he leaves you alone now and I'm very glad to hear that the lump isn't dangerous xx

Thanks, Tupp!

I was so relieved when the nurse practitioner told me it's benign that I started crying in the doctor's office.  I'm glad they are keeping an eye on it and know what they're talking about as opposed to the MEN in the G.P.'s office.  (Long story with that!)

Yeah, Cousin JackA$$ royally pissed me off with his bloody bull$hit!  He's as bad as that tangerine wankmaggot we're stuck with until the next elections!  At one point, during that STUPID phone call, he attempted to invite himself to my doorstep!  (How about F**K NO, drunken jizztrumpet MORON?!?!?)  He spouted off my address, (that I NEVER gave him), so I knew he had done a Google search on me.  If he's DUMBA$$ enough to turn up on my doorstep unwanted, unannounced and UNINVITED, he will be dealing with the local constabulary when I report his drunken A$$ for TRESPASSING!!!

I'll be quoting David Gerrold....GET OFF MY LAWN!!!!!!

Oh Bones, tangerine wankmaggot!  I spat out my tea, lol, that needs to go on a T shirt or something!  That's so funny I'm crying :)

I'm glad the nurse was/is reassuring.  I've felt for a long time now that a lot of doctors could really do with some sort of interpreter when talking to patients - someone who can explain the necessary medical stuff but do it in a caring, practical manner.  Some of the people I've met with my son just don't have that skill and it does make the experience much harder to deal with (and it's hard enough as it is).  So I'm glad the nurse was good and I think tears of relief are very natural in times like this.

As for your cousin, well, what a doofus.  I hope he leaves you alone now, although your insults are so funny I'm half hoping you get a chance to use them on him lol.  And yes, the family thing is so true, of people in general, I think - you want the ones that are there for you, good and bad, because they enjoy your company and value you as a person, not because of what they can get out of you or what kind of cushion you provide for all of their issues.  I get that kind of acceptance from you guys on here and I value that so much, I can't tell you :) xx

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« Reply #8171 on: July 25, 2018, 01:07:35 PM »
Hi Bonesie,

Sorry not to have checked in for a while.  We just moved house so it has been crazy busy plus we were without internet for a few days.  For some reason I thought you were seeing the specialist this Tuesday (tomorrow), not last week.  But I'm very glad to read that everything is benign.  I know getting check ups is a pain but I find they help stop me worrying when I know someone is keeping an eye out on things.  I hope the biopsy area is healing now and not as uncomfortable.

As for that relative - wow.  Did he really not remember that your brother had died?  I seem to remember you posting about this when it originally happened and that you'd been able to block him.  I do remember you saying about him calling people the N word - I hate that word!  Why did he phone, was he just drunk and rambling?  Sometimes technology has its downsides.  I think in the days when people could only communicate by letter and it was delivered on horse back they didn't have to deal with this kind of nonsense.

I hope he leaves you alone now and I'm very glad to hear that the lump isn't dangerous xx

Thanks, Tupp!

I was so relieved when the nurse practitioner told me it's benign that I started crying in the doctor's office.  I'm glad they are keeping an eye on it and know what they're talking about as opposed to the MEN in the G.P.'s office.  (Long story with that!)

Yeah, Cousin JackA$$ royally pissed me off with his bloody bull$hit!  He's as bad as that tangerine wankmaggot we're stuck with until the next elections!  At one point, during that STUPID phone call, he attempted to invite himself to my doorstep!  (How about F**K NO, drunken jizztrumpet MORON?!?!?)  He spouted off my address, (that I NEVER gave him), so I knew he had done a Google search on me.  If he's DUMBA$$ enough to turn up on my doorstep unwanted, unannounced and UNINVITED, he will be dealing with the local constabulary when I report his drunken A$$ for TRESPASSING!!!

I'll be quoting David Gerrold....GET OFF MY LAWN!!!!!!

Oh Bones, tangerine wankmaggot!  I spat out my tea, lol, that needs to go on a T shirt or something!  That's so funny I'm crying :)

I'm glad the nurse was/is reassuring.  I've felt for a long time now that a lot of doctors could really do with some sort of interpreter when talking to patients - someone who can explain the necessary medical stuff but do it in a caring, practical manner.  Some of the people I've met with my son just don't have that skill and it does make the experience much harder to deal with (and it's hard enough as it is).  So I'm glad the nurse was good and I think tears of relief are very natural in times like this.

As for your cousin, well, what a doofus.  I hope he leaves you alone now, although your insults are so funny I'm half hoping you get a chance to use them on him lol.  And yes, the family thing is so true, of people in general, I think - you want the ones that are there for you, good and bad, because they enjoy your company and value you as a person, not because of what they can get out of you or what kind of cushion you provide for all of their issues.  I get that kind of acceptance from you guys on here and I value that so much, I can't tell you :) xx

Thanks, Tupp!  xx

I've reached the point that doofuses like Cousin JackA$$ et al are NOT considered family and they are too stupid to understand insults thrown directly in their faces.  If JackA$$ shows up, he'll get a rude awakening and a clear message that he is NOT welcome here!
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« Reply #8172 on: August 31, 2018, 05:49:28 PM »
How are you doing, Bones?  I've been thinking about you.  I hope the jackass cousin didn't cause any more problems.  We are seeing so many cute cats when we're out and about, nine on the way home from town this evening, all friendly and wanting a bit of a fuss.  I think I need to make up some sort of kitty showreel or something :) lol xx

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« Reply #8173 on: September 01, 2018, 04:33:22 AM »
How are you doing, Bones?  I've been thinking about you.  I hope the jackass cousin didn't cause any more problems.  We are seeing so many cute cats when we're out and about, nine on the way home from town this evening, all friendly and wanting a bit of a fuss.  I think I need to make up some sort of kitty showreel or something :) lol xx

I'm taking things one day at a time.

I'd LOVE to see pictures of those Fur Babies!!!!!!
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« Reply #8174 on: September 02, 2018, 04:22:27 PM »
How are you doing, Bones?  I've been thinking about you.  I hope the jackass cousin didn't cause any more problems.  We are seeing so many cute cats when we're out and about, nine on the way home from town this evening, all friendly and wanting a bit of a fuss.  I think I need to make up some sort of kitty showreel or something :) lol xx

I'm taking things one day at a time.

I'd LOVE to see pictures of those Fur Babies!!!!!!

One day at a time sounds like a good approach, Bonesie :)  I will see if I can start snapping pics of the cute kitties and load them on here somehow.  There is one we've christened the subway cat as he hangs around the underpass that leads to the shop, we've a pure white one called the snow cat, a long legged grey one that we've imaginatively titled 'Long Legs Grey Boy' and a stripy one that sleeps in the walnut tree with his legs hanging down either side of the branches :)  I will have to try and sneak up on them when they're napping and get some pictures :) xx