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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #8100 on: March 05, 2018, 05:36:43 AM »
How's the weather now, Bonesie, any better?  We've had a lot of snow and veeeery cold weather, minus 11 a couple of nights this week and our heating broke down earlier in the week.  Got it fixed and I've kept it on since, I was scared it wouldn't start again if I switched it down too low :)  Starting to warm up again now, though.  Hope the weather is getting better for you :) xx

A bad wind storm hit my area on Friday and there's been quite a bit of damage around.  My home is okay, just a few shingles flew off the rooftops of my condo development.  I feel sorry for anyone who is dealing with the aftermath.

I'm glad you're okay and there wasn't more damage.  The clean up is always so difficult to cope with, there are still cars waiting to be recovered around our way at the minute, made me feel glad I'm not driving anymore :) xx

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« Reply #8101 on: March 05, 2018, 07:03:17 AM »
How's the weather now, Bonesie, any better?  We've had a lot of snow and veeeery cold weather, minus 11 a couple of nights this week and our heating broke down earlier in the week.  Got it fixed and I've kept it on since, I was scared it wouldn't start again if I switched it down too low :)  Starting to warm up again now, though.  Hope the weather is getting better for you :) xx

A bad wind storm hit my area on Friday and there's been quite a bit of damage around.  My home is okay, just a few shingles flew off the rooftops of my condo development.  I feel sorry for anyone who is dealing with the aftermath.

I'm glad you're okay and there wasn't more damage.  The clean up is always so difficult to cope with, there are still cars waiting to be recovered around our way at the minute, made me feel glad I'm not driving anymore :) xx

Turns out that as a CERT member, I was deployed yesterday to help with the aftermath.  One of the apartment buildings in my county had a wall collapse, which rendered the building unfit for human habitation.  Several other buildings had roof damage so bad that those buildings had to be evacuated as well.  Then it was finally decided to close down the entire apartment development and evacuate ALL the tenants to a disaster shelter at a nearby high school.  I was stationed at the high school to check CERT members in and out plus giving the CERT members necessary instructions on how to get to the disaster site, where to park, etc. as parking was RESTRICTED like CRAZY!!!!

Quite an experience!
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« Reply #8102 on: March 06, 2018, 03:58:34 AM »
How's the weather now, Bonesie, any better?  We've had a lot of snow and veeeery cold weather, minus 11 a couple of nights this week and our heating broke down earlier in the week.  Got it fixed and I've kept it on since, I was scared it wouldn't start again if I switched it down too low :)  Starting to warm up again now, though.  Hope the weather is getting better for you :) xx

A bad wind storm hit my area on Friday and there's been quite a bit of damage around.  My home is okay, just a few shingles flew off the rooftops of my condo development.  I feel sorry for anyone who is dealing with the aftermath.

I'm glad you're okay and there wasn't more damage.  The clean up is always so difficult to cope with, there are still cars waiting to be recovered around our way at the minute, made me feel glad I'm not driving anymore :) xx

Turns out that as a CERT member, I was deployed yesterday to help with the aftermath.  One of the apartment buildings in my county had a wall collapse, which rendered the building unfit for human habitation.  Several other buildings had roof damage so bad that those buildings had to be evacuated as well.  Then it was finally decided to close down the entire apartment development and evacuate ALL the tenants to a disaster shelter at a nearby high school.  I was stationed at the high school to check CERT members in and out plus giving the CERT members necessary instructions on how to get to the disaster site, where to park, etc. as parking was RESTRICTED like CRAZY!!!!

Quite an experience!

Oh wow Bonesie, how many people has that affected?  Does that mean they're all now homeless or will they be able to get repairs done quickly and get people back in?  There's just so little you can do to prepare for something as huge and unpredictable as that sort of weather related damage, I hope people are able to get back to their homes quickly xx

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« Reply #8103 on: March 06, 2018, 04:16:43 AM »
How's the weather now, Bonesie, any better?  We've had a lot of snow and veeeery cold weather, minus 11 a couple of nights this week and our heating broke down earlier in the week.  Got it fixed and I've kept it on since, I was scared it wouldn't start again if I switched it down too low :)  Starting to warm up again now, though.  Hope the weather is getting better for you :) xx

A bad wind storm hit my area on Friday and there's been quite a bit of damage around.  My home is okay, just a few shingles flew off the rooftops of my condo development.  I feel sorry for anyone who is dealing with the aftermath.

I'm glad you're okay and there wasn't more damage.  The clean up is always so difficult to cope with, there are still cars waiting to be recovered around our way at the minute, made me feel glad I'm not driving anymore :) xx

Turns out that as a CERT member, I was deployed yesterday to help with the aftermath.  One of the apartment buildings in my county had a wall collapse, which rendered the building unfit for human habitation.  Several other buildings had roof damage so bad that those buildings had to be evacuated as well.  Then it was finally decided to close down the entire apartment development and evacuate ALL the tenants to a disaster shelter at a nearby high school.  I was stationed at the high school to check CERT members in and out plus giving the CERT members necessary instructions on how to get to the disaster site, where to park, etc. as parking was RESTRICTED like CRAZY!!!!

Quite an experience!

Oh wow Bonesie, how many people has that affected?  Does that mean they're all now homeless or will they be able to get repairs done quickly and get people back in?  There's just so little you can do to prepare for something as huge and unpredictable as that sort of weather related damage, I hope people are able to get back to their homes quickly xx

I think at least 300 people were affected in that apartment complex.  I saw a picture of one of the buildings and the wall was just GONE!!!!!!!  It looked like a dollhouse!  I took one look at the photo and my mind was BLOWN!!!!  WOW!!!!

I did see a bit more damage around my home, such as a fence blown down with pieces of it scattered about.  I felt that the fence was nothing compared to that apartment building!
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« Reply #8104 on: March 06, 2018, 07:30:00 AM »
Oh Bones, that's terrible, so many people, it's so hard for people to manage and get on with day to day stuff when all their possessions are elsewhere and they've no base.  I hope they can all get some help to get everything sorted out as quickly as possible xx

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« Reply #8105 on: March 06, 2018, 10:58:07 AM »
Oh Bones, that's terrible, so many people, it's so hard for people to manage and get on with day to day stuff when all their possessions are elsewhere and they've no base.  I hope they can all get some help to get everything sorted out as quickly as possible xx

I agree!

It's going to take some time for everything to get sorted out.
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« Reply #8106 on: April 13, 2018, 05:13:57 PM »
Struggling with Depression AND Selective Mutism from my Spectrum Disorder.

I wish there was a therapist near me that is familiar with Survivors of Narcissists, Autism Spectrum Disorder, AND accepts Medicare.

It SUCKS!!!!!
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« Reply #8107 on: April 15, 2018, 03:40:35 AM »
Struggling with Depression AND Selective Mutism from my Spectrum Disorder.

I wish there was a therapist near me that is familiar with Survivors of Narcissists, Autism Spectrum Disorder, AND accepts Medicare.

It SUCKS!!!!!

Oh, Bones, I'm sorry to read things are tough, you have so much going on to cope with, it must be hard to keep on keeping on.  Do you find the depression and selective mutism are linked to one another or do you experience them at different times.  Selective mutism isn't something I know much about other than things I've read which are usually part of other descriptions (if that makes sense?).

Do you find there are a shortage of therapists who could help in general or is it more to do with finding someone who accepts Medicare?  I hope someone can find or suggest something useful for you xx xx

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« Reply #8108 on: April 15, 2018, 07:51:15 AM »
Struggling with Depression AND Selective Mutism from my Spectrum Disorder.

I wish there was a therapist near me that is familiar with Survivors of Narcissists, Autism Spectrum Disorder, AND accepts Medicare.

It SUCKS!!!!!

Oh, Bones, I'm sorry to read things are tough, you have so much going on to cope with, it must be hard to keep on keeping on.  Do you find the depression and selective mutism are linked to one another or do you experience them at different times.  Selective mutism isn't something I know much about other than things I've read which are usually part of other descriptions (if that makes sense?).

Do you find there are a shortage of therapists who could help in general or is it more to do with finding someone who accepts Medicare?  I hope someone can find or suggest something useful for you xx xx

It's a combination of everything.

Having worked in the mental health field myself, I've seen things that make me queasy.
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« Reply #8109 on: April 16, 2018, 10:43:53 AM »
Struggling with Depression AND Selective Mutism from my Spectrum Disorder.

I wish there was a therapist near me that is familiar with Survivors of Narcissists, Autism Spectrum Disorder, AND accepts Medicare.

It SUCKS!!!!!

Oh, Bones, I'm sorry to read things are tough, you have so much going on to cope with, it must be hard to keep on keeping on.  Do you find the depression and selective mutism are linked to one another or do you experience them at different times.  Selective mutism isn't something I know much about other than things I've read which are usually part of other descriptions (if that makes sense?).

Do you find there are a shortage of therapists who could help in general or is it more to do with finding someone who accepts Medicare?  I hope someone can find or suggest something useful for you xx xx

It's a combination of everything.

Having worked in the mental health field myself, I've seen things that make me queasy.

Very tough to cope with on your own. Bonesie, I hope there is a T out there that can do something useful.  Any sign of some spring weather yet?  We still have grey skies and rain :) xx

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« Reply #8110 on: April 16, 2018, 02:23:36 PM »
Struggling with Depression AND Selective Mutism from my Spectrum Disorder.

I wish there was a therapist near me that is familiar with Survivors of Narcissists, Autism Spectrum Disorder, AND accepts Medicare.

It SUCKS!!!!!

Oh, Bones, I'm sorry to read things are tough, you have so much going on to cope with, it must be hard to keep on keeping on.  Do you find the depression and selective mutism are linked to one another or do you experience them at different times.  Selective mutism isn't something I know much about other than things I've read which are usually part of other descriptions (if that makes sense?).

Do you find there are a shortage of therapists who could help in general or is it more to do with finding someone who accepts Medicare?  I hope someone can find or suggest something useful for you xx xx

It's a combination of everything.

Having worked in the mental health field myself, I've seen things that make me queasy.

Very tough to cope with on your own. Bonesie, I hope there is a T out there that can do something useful.  Any sign of some spring weather yet?  We still have grey skies and rain :) xx

Thanks, Tupp.

There's a lot I need to deal with and trying to find the resources is daunting, especially since I no longer have any kind of support system around me...part of the problem of getting older.

It's raining right now so I'm cooped up.
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« Reply #8111 on: April 17, 2018, 05:22:14 AM »
((((((((((Bones))))))))))))))))

It always seems so odd to me that we have billions of people on the planet, enormous amounts of knowledge and information, mind blowing pieces of technology that can do all sorts of incredible things - yet we fail on the basic stuff like health and just supporting people when they need it.  We seem to be capable of so much and yet sometimes achieve so little.  Often it just takes a little bit of effort or organising to make such a difference to people's lives but it doesn't seem to happen.  I don't know why.  I'm sorry it's not easier for you.  And the rain doesn't help!  It looks like it's going to rain here, I'm just waiting to see what it decides to do :) xx

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« Reply #8112 on: April 17, 2018, 06:16:28 AM »
((((((((((Bones))))))))))))))))

It always seems so odd to me that we have billions of people on the planet, enormous amounts of knowledge and information, mind blowing pieces of technology that can do all sorts of incredible things - yet we fail on the basic stuff like health and just supporting people when they need it.  We seem to be capable of so much and yet sometimes achieve so little.  Often it just takes a little bit of effort or organising to make such a difference to people's lives but it doesn't seem to happen.  I don't know why.  I'm sorry it's not easier for you.  And the rain doesn't help!  It looks like it's going to rain here, I'm just waiting to see what it decides to do :) xx

Thanks, Tupp.
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« Reply #8113 on: May 02, 2018, 04:26:14 AM »
Bonesie, we've had nothing but rain!  Spring just sort of vanished - there's blossom all over the roads where the rain has lashed it out of the trees :)  A memo was going around on Facebook from a conservation group about helping the bees - because it was warm and then got cold a lot of them sort of go into a coma and need sugar water to get them going again.  Sure enough, the next day there was one on the floor of the landing, alive but just lying there, so we mixed some honey and water together and dipped a cotton bud into it and then slid that under him.  He had a little feed and it was like his batteries recharged; he started to buzz and his wings started flapping and off he went outside to find some proper nectar :)  Hopefully he's still going :)  How's the weather like with you now, has it perked up at all?

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« Reply #8114 on: May 02, 2018, 09:48:04 AM »
Bonesie, we've had nothing but rain!  Spring just sort of vanished - there's blossom all over the roads where the rain has lashed it out of the trees :)  A memo was going around on Facebook from a conservation group about helping the bees - because it was warm and then got cold a lot of them sort of go into a coma and need sugar water to get them going again.  Sure enough, the next day there was one on the floor of the landing, alive but just lying there, so we mixed some honey and water together and dipped a cotton bud into it and then slid that under him.  He had a little feed and it was like his batteries recharged; he started to buzz and his wings started flapping and off he went outside to find some proper nectar :)  Hopefully he's still going :)  How's the weather like with you now, has it perked up at all?

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I'm glad that bee is okay.  It's finally starting to warm up around here.

Also, while I was perusing reddit, I spotted this and it felt so painfully familiar:

A Narcissist's Prayer

That didn't happen.

And if it did, it wasn't that bad.

And if it was, that's not a big deal.

And if it is, that's not my fault.

And if it was, I didn't mean it.

And if I did... You deserved it.

URGH!  Makes me want to go back in time and slap a BEEYOTCH or three!
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