Author Topic: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?  (Read 690607 times)

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« Reply #3225 on: February 13, 2012, 07:26:12 AM »
So many thoughts going through my head as I watch the news about the late Whitney Houston and the reactions of her family.  What I don't get are the snarky comments from various jack-a$$e$ who don't get it that these comments will have a way of getting back to her family....and that her family does NOT need that kind of crap!

In one sense, I won't be surprised that the toxicology results will indicate alcohol and/or benzodiazepines in her system.  When I was actively practicing my own addiction, I did the same thing and, by God's Grace, lived to tell about it.  I've watched others, who were actively practicing, do the same thing.  Some lived, some died, some almost killed others while they were self-destructing themselves.

I feel for that 19-year-old parentified child who had been taking care of her mother ever since she was old enough to toddle.  I get the strong sense that Bobbi Kristina is blaming herself for not being there to save her mother, even though it was not that child's fault.  I want to wrap that child in a huge bear hug and tell her it's going to be okay.  She doesn't have to be strong for anyone and to allow others to love and take care of her for a change.
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« Reply #3226 on: February 14, 2012, 06:57:14 AM »
Before I went to bed last night, and glanced at the Internet news one more time, I read that Bobbi Kristina was rushed to the hospital a second time.  I'm worried about that child.
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« Reply #3227 on: February 15, 2012, 07:22:46 AM »
I did something last night that I was not comfortable with but had to do.....I chaired a committee meeting.  I also found myself struggling with voicelessness.  Several times, while I was attempting to make a point about an issue, others would cut me off in mid-sentence and started telling me what I SHOULD think, SHOULD do, SHOULD feel, etc. until I finally lost my temper, slammed the table with my hand and shouted:  "NO ONE IS LISTENING TO ME!"  That finally made them stop cutting me off.  I HATE having to go that far.
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« Reply #3228 on: February 15, 2012, 09:51:55 AM »
Oh yes... I'm with you there, Bones! And further, what really gets me irritated... is when I am criticized for having to be that extreme, to get people to hear me. That's really the pits! And unfortunately, hubs feels it's his responsibility to do this "for me". Grrrrrrrrr.....

Sometimes one just has to do this, Bones. It's not "good" or "bad"...
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« Reply #3229 on: February 15, 2012, 11:17:55 AM »
Oh yes... I'm with you there, Bones! And further, what really gets me irritated... is when I am criticized for having to be that extreme, to get people to hear me. That's really the pits! And unfortunately, hubs feels it's his responsibility to do this "for me". Grrrrrrrrr.....

Sometimes one just has to do this, Bones. It's not "good" or "bad"...

Thanks, P.R.

I just find it very annoying when we finally find our voices and others attempt to cut it off!  Yrrrrrrcccchhhhh!!!!!
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« Reply #3230 on: February 16, 2012, 06:10:10 AM »
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« Reply #3231 on: February 17, 2012, 06:29:07 AM »
Going to be offline for the weekend....dealing with 3-D real life.
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« Reply #3232 on: February 17, 2012, 07:40:47 AM »
What are up to, Bones?
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« Reply #3233 on: February 17, 2012, 10:52:21 AM »
What are up to, Bones?

Some friends are taking me to a Star Trek Convention, over the weekend, for my birthday.
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« Reply #3234 on: February 18, 2012, 07:44:28 AM »
Ah... explore new worlds, sweetie!  :D

I hope you have a great time.
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« Reply #3235 on: February 20, 2012, 05:44:46 AM »
Ah... explore new worlds, sweetie!  :D

I hope you have a great time.

Definitely had a great time during the weekend!  Hanging out with others like me is FUN!!!!!  Especially when we can talk about Star Trek non-stop!!!!!
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« Reply #3236 on: February 20, 2012, 05:54:48 AM »
Plus I gave in to a few impulse spending sprees and brought home a battery-powered phaser, communicator, three Star Trek novels and a Star Trek Blooper DVD!  More fun for home!   :D

Also dealt with one Narcissist while I was participating in a Star Trek panel about Deep Space Nine.  The panel I was on consisted of four people....two guys and two gals....and we were discussing how the character of Benjamin Sisko evolved from the moment we first saw him in the episode: "Emissary" until the final episode:  "What You Leave Behind", when the "president" of our club stands up, interrupts us to LOUDLY announce:  "Well, I AM going to an IMPORTANT meeting now!"  I simply shouted back, "Then GO!  We're doing just fine on our own!  GO!  BYE!"  He had this funny look on his face and then he left.  We simply continued our discussion on Benjamin Sisko without any further ado.
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« Reply #3237 on: February 20, 2012, 08:46:16 AM »
Sound like you really needed this, Bones and enjoyed yourself.

Ya know, I think I could stand to make the effort to do this kind of thing more often too. Break out of my self-imposed shackles of the dreaded "to-do" list... more often.
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« Reply #3238 on: February 20, 2012, 10:10:08 AM »
Sound like you really needed this, Bones and enjoyed yourself.

Ya know, I think I could stand to make the effort to do this kind of thing more often too. Break out of my self-imposed shackles of the dreaded "to-do" list... more often.

Thanks, P.R.

The Star Trek panel on Friday night was hysterically FUNNY!!!!  The topic was on sexuality in Star Trek and the people leading the panel consisted of two guys and three gals sitting on a sofa.  One guy walked in wearing a Star Trek bathrobe carrying a glass of wine, signifying the suave sophisticate and the other guy came in wearing a trenchcoat, carrying a can of beer in a paper bag, signifying the pervert!  I was one of the three gals and I couldn't stop laughing!!!!   :lol:

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« Reply #3239 on: February 21, 2012, 05:25:37 AM »
Now it feels strange getting back to mundane life.
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