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Ales2

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A Family Affair...must see movie
« on: May 15, 2018, 07:20:53 PM »
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I just can't put into words my thoughts on this movie right now... but you MUST see it.  Trailer here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kDeqrlVLLrE      A FAMILY AFFAIR

Now running on Netflix.  1 hour 50 minutes. 

Dr. Grossman, the son of this womb donor (thanks Bones for that new word) becomes a Psychologist. 

Come back and post your thoughts.  All the best to everybody on the Board!


Ales2

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Re: A Family Affair...must see movie
« Reply #1 on: May 15, 2018, 07:39:45 PM »
And, please be careful, this movie has triggers for some people. 

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Re: A Family Affair...must see movie
« Reply #2 on: May 15, 2018, 08:43:32 PM »
Hole-ey MOLEY.

I think I have to watch it.

The poor son, wanting her to take off the mask...

I remember finally understanding when Nmom was in her nineties that her lifelong mask WAS her. So the very few tiny times something mild and warm would surface for the briefest moment, which would seem beyond trivial to people with "ordinary" (e.g., miraculous) mothers... I was spellbound. And later, grateful for those individual sparks of momentary health. Never wholeness. But sparks of some emotional vitality would appear -- rarely and as briefly as a star winks on a cloudy night -- and I would remember her humanity, long glassed-over by the endogenous and exogenous curse she was, I think, born with.
"That'll do, pig, that'll do."

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Re: A Family Affair...must see movie
« Reply #3 on: May 15, 2018, 09:04:03 PM »
Hole-ey MOLEY is right.

There are so many layers here.

But, what always gets me is the sickest ones are the honest, sane ones. The manipulators always come out ahead because they adapt to circumstances in a pathological, vindictive way. The honest ones see circumstances as they are, try to understand them or are manipulated so severely, they can't see reality clearly and fall into mental illness.  Awful.  We seem to think its the insane who live poorly, but when dealing with abusers, its the sane who are most harmed.


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Re: A Family Affair...must see movie
« Reply #4 on: May 15, 2018, 10:52:16 PM »
I just watched it, am listening to the quiet surf at the end.
An absolutely wrenching story, so quietly and beautifully told.
And every person on the board who's had a Nmother, will understand.

I feel very fortunate to have seen it.
Once our lives are reclaimed as our own stories (hence their fight at the end),
we can end the cycle.

Thank you, Ales. Phenomenal recommendation.

Hops
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Re: A Family Affair...must see movie
« Reply #5 on: May 16, 2018, 12:14:30 PM »
Thanks Hops. I'm glad you liked it.

I wanted to see more about Rene, the brother, the hoarder. He seems like he was very severely abused by his Mother's abandonment and neglect.  This is the great untold story here. I hope the Director makes another movie about Rene. 

The father, Rob, the psychologist, never mentioned if his family relationships was the reason he became a psychologist or what kind of practice he had. I'd like to know more about that as well.

I also never got much more of the political situation, what they do during the war, aside from move to Holland. Would have liked to see more about that.

The creepy part for me was Grammas inability to accept her Grandson's girlfriend/fiance. That was the weirdest thing, but also shows in detail how a parent or grandparents views can sabotage relationships. Kudos to him for continuing to stand up for her.

Marianne was quite the piece of work, abandoning her children and constantly criticizing them. It was disturbing. I hope it gets lots of views, discussion and new thoughts on this topic.