...those inner voices have been brainwashed about what they are by people who never took the time to actually SEE who we really are, or find out when we're our happiest and why, never really KNEW us...
What popped right up for me reading this great Amber comment was--I believe "people who never took the time" most importantly includes us. Ourselves. It's US taking the time to actually see who we really are, etc.--that is the cure. For practically everything.
Others will see or not see, contained as they are within their own experiences, lives, and struggle to see THEMselves. So as long as our focus is external, waiting for rescue from those who do see us...we may wait in vain.
Got to see, know, embrace, forgive, support, advocate for, and love ourselves. Not really in opposition to others or just because others disappoint us. But without waiting for the magical rescue-people who won't disappoint. We have the opportunity without waiting for anybody at all, to work at seeing and loving ourselves. The loving ourselves is what makes seeing ourselves possible.
That's what makes us (what's with the we/us, Hops? Obviously preaching to yourself, here) ... ahem ... what makes us ultimately healthier, less resentful, less desperate, less guarded -- all of which make it more likely that as we move through the world, we attract folks who also have healed, open hearts.
(We enjoyed our sermon.)
love to us,