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 on: August 24, 2014, 06:46:05 AM 
Started by BonesMS - Last post by BonesMS
I try very hard not to get nitpicky and yet my Aspie traits do get in the way.  Given that I occasionally write stories set in the Trek Universe, I tend to focus on what words MEAN so that I can accurately describe/draw/paint with the written word the pictures that I see in my mind.  This is a challenge for me as I THINK IN PICTURES INSTEAD OF WORDS.  (Temple Grandin is the same way and I've been told that this is also an Aspie trait.)

Yesterday, my community was supposed to have a pool party and I was going to help with the grilling.  Well, Mother Nature chimed in and we got rained out.  The property management employee started designing notices to the community and we ended up bickering about semantics.  She wanted to say:  "Pool Party Canceled!"  I reminded her that we have a RAIN DATE so that the notice should say:  "Pool Party POSTPONED!" and emphasize the RAIN DATE.  She kept trying to insist that the word "canceled" and "postponed" mean the exact same thing.  WHAT ARE THEY TEACHING IN SCHOOL NOWADAYS?!?!?!?  She finally saw my point that if she announced "canceled" then NO ONE would show up on the RAIN DATE and printed out notices that say:  "POOL PARTY POSTPONED TO RAIN DATE!"


 on: August 23, 2014, 08:05:30 PM 
Started by Ales2 - Last post by river
Thanks for the link, I finally watched it.  I enjoyed the Samvak with Lydia bit.   

I often have the problem you described here, wishing I'd said what needed to be said, and feeling affected about it afterwards.   

 on: August 23, 2014, 03:40:55 AM 
Started by BonesMS - Last post by BonesMS
Checking in......



 on: August 23, 2014, 03:07:23 AM 
Started by BonesMS - Last post by Twoapenny
Checking in......


 on: August 23, 2014, 01:41:02 AM 
Started by BonesMS - Last post by BonesMS
Checking in......

 on: August 22, 2014, 10:27:12 AM 
Started by Gaining Strength - Last post by Gaining Strength
Hops, I've always worked that way, coming out of a demanding home with an OCPD father.  But I am finding at this stage it is time to step it up and ask a bit more.  It is a delicate balance between perfectionism and just sliding by.

 on: August 22, 2014, 10:25:07 AM 
Started by Gaining Strength - Last post by Gaining Strength
Feel like I continue to make progress after a sustained lull.  This is exciting for me. It renews my hope. The early progress gave me relief and internal peace. This gives me hope for my future.

 on: August 22, 2014, 09:06:41 AM 
Started by Gaining Strength - Last post by Gaining Strength
I am learning to. Make my shifts in the pre- thought arena.  I have come to notice that I have a feeling in my body before there is a thought.  It is before emotions as well.  It is a feeling in my body.  When I feel it i direct  my intentions there, concentrating a healing light or some healing image.  It is producing an effect which allows me to actually act.  It is intervening before the shame and anxiety enters in.  It seems to prevent the genesis of subconscious self,condemning thoughts.  This could turn into a major break through.  It has helped as I prepare a trip to pick up my child.  Already this morning when I delivered my dogs I was able to do so without my lifelong anxiety and self- condemnation.

I have much more work to get over the paralysis but there is movement there.  In that regad I have come to be aware of a great resistance.  When I have something that must be done, as I hold it in my thoughts and mind I feel a great stranglehold come over me.  I am going to apply this same intention to see if I can break it up.

 on: August 22, 2014, 06:26:01 AM 
Started by BonesMS - Last post by BonesMS
Just checking in.......

 on: August 21, 2014, 04:58:15 PM 
Started by BonesMS - Last post by BonesMS
Prudie missed a beat on the accidental mother death confession.  If there is money involved in the womans estate, you can bet that the adult kids who walked away will come back wanting their slice of that pie and possibly to make it bigger and will accuse or insinuate that Ruth was somehow responsible for Mothers death through negligence or some other liability. Her need for an attorney may reach farther than criminal actions, and into civil and probate court. Consulting with an attorney may be necessary to avoid a gaslighting type scenario in the future.

That's possible.

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