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 on: July 17, 2015, 04:44:42 AM 
Started by BonesMS - Last post by BonesMS
checking in......................................

 on: July 17, 2015, 01:43:11 AM 
Started by Garbanzo - Last post by Garbanzo
I wish I had a family. Whatever that means.

 on: July 16, 2015, 09:35:23 AM 
Started by BonesMS - Last post by BonesMS

 on: July 15, 2015, 06:28:27 AM 
Started by BonesMS - Last post by BonesMS
checking in.........................................

 on: July 14, 2015, 07:14:58 AM 
Started by Garbanzo - Last post by Hopalong
Your tears on the bus made perfect sense to me, Boat.
Sad as it felt, that sorrow is real and needed releasing.

I'm one of those people who has no family too. No functioning
family that I can see or talk to. So I have wept too.

All I can see for warmth and hope in my life and future is
PHamily--the friends I've made through various small group
things I've done. That's how I met most of the few folks I am
now close to and probably always will be. They're the PHamily.

Every one needs one.

I'm okay. Fresh wave of sorrow over my daughter lately.
Talked it out with friends and T and I'm moving on. Been
slow to garden or do much of anything since my trip, but
it's still beautiful summer here. Things bloom around me
whether they're my blooms or not...


 on: July 14, 2015, 03:06:57 AM 
Started by BonesMS - Last post by BonesMS
Had to go to the E.R. for an old problem.  NOT fun!   Razz

 on: July 13, 2015, 10:02:57 PM 
Started by Garbanzo - Last post by Garbanzo
@ Hops... Awww you always have something nice to say Hops. Thanks!!!

Yes I am very glad I got to see them, I only wish that they could have stayed longer or that I had the ability to have them over at my place so I could have taken them to do things in the city more but it just didn't turn out that way.

So whats going on with you?

 on: July 13, 2015, 10:00:18 PM 
Started by Garbanzo - Last post by Garbanzo
Well they left last Saturday got on the plane back home  Sad

i got to go fishing with them etc. We caught a little fish it was a type of sunfish I think a pumpkin seed  lol  just a little bugger but at least we caught something. Larger fish would have required a bigger fishing pole really as there was a guy who caught a pretty decent sized trout with a line casted out into deeper water.

Should not admit this but I cried on my bus ride home on the last day that I saw them. Kinda of extreme I guess but it makes me feel sad that I dont have relatives near by that feel like "friends and family"

Just got home from work and put some pork ribs in oven will see how it comes out its always a surprise. Sat down with a bottle of beer and kind of feeling more aware of being lonely than before my nephews came.

Over all it was decent, no major arguments or anything with my mother just one annoying night of her acting drunk and shitty but besides that it was okay. So here I am sort of alone again basically. I like to have some quiet time and breathing room so I can hear myself think but really I would prefer to have people around over this kind of defaulting-to-solitude- mode.

 on: July 13, 2015, 02:18:46 PM 
Started by Overcomer - Last post by Overcomer
As I am revisiting my childhood and trying to figure out what and why after I've come through and out, I started to realize something.  I lived a double life in my teen years.

I pretty much did what I was told as a child.  I was strong willed but knew I'd probably get a spanking (a REAL one, pants pulled down with the belt) if I didn't do as I was told.  I learned to do whatever I needed to do.  I remember never having my mom come to school for me.  I never remember telling on bullies.  I just got stronger and stronger within.

Then when I got my driver's license I was free in a sense.  My nmom was so busy building a network marketing empire that she barely had time to look my way.  Yes, I wanted my parents to come and watch me cheer but I was able to deal without their presence.

I started living a double life.  I became an expert at hiding the real me.  I always had a sense of guilt as the strict Christian upbringing I had expected perfection so since I never achieved that I always had a sense of shame and guilt but that didn't stop me from living my double life.

All the way into my 40s when I had my break down I lived a double life.  My life and then my parents' and their friends life.  I was 2 different people and probably still am to a degree.  I don't ever come out and say aloud that I am for same-sex marriage.  I never come right out and speak my truth.  I usually try to passively aggressively shine a light on my mom and her dysfunctional family but posting articles about it on FB.

Did anyone else live a double life to appease their N?

 on: July 13, 2015, 01:27:09 PM 
Started by Dr. Richard Grossman - Last post by Dr. Richard Grossman
Hi everybody,

For all you kind people who have put up with my humor (and drama) thus far, yes, I have written another 10-minute play.  This one is entitled “Dr. Frank, Therapy App,” and will be one of my submissions to the 2016 Boston Theater Marathon.  All comments are welcome.  Thank you so much for the read!  Here's the "description":

Who needs a therapist when you can purchase the Dr. Frank, Therapy App?

Hmmm, that’s a complicated question…

A 10-minute comedy!



P.S.  From my astute stepdaughter, Claire, who was kind enough to comment on the play:  "Thinking how it mirrors parts of you and your life."  How true!

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