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There are people of all ages doing just that, Hops. Hitting the road. One of Mike's nieces - married with a dog - travelled the US in a VW camper and published a blog about their adventures. (Including lots of car trouble!)

They spent some time in Alaska, even. Picking up jobs where ever they were. Last I heard, they were thinking of settling in Atlanta.

And for future reference - you won't get anything longer than 28 ft up my road to even GET to my property. I have to meet 18 wheelers out at the highway when that's how things are shipped. I now make sure people understand that's physically impossible here. The movers parked at the highway - unloaded onto a box truck - and then brought it in to unload.
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Thanks both, puttering is a good way to describe things :)  Funnily enough, having more or less talked myself in to 'we'll probably be staying quite a bit longer', a landlord contacted me to arrange viewing a property down there next week.  So it may all be back on again, and quickly.  It's made me realise that I still have this thing about needing to have all eventualities planned and prepared for - it's a control issue, one to keep me safe and stop 'the bad people' coming to get me.  I think I need to work on separating in my mind essential planning for things that are definitely happening, but then letting go of the maybes and working on trusting that, whatever happens, I can and will deal with it.  I need to change my mind set from looking back on what I've been through before and not focusing on the fear and the horror and the endless tears of frustration, but reminding myself that even though I felt all those things and I was completely blindsided and unprepared, I still fought back and I still won.  And I'm still winning now.  We've come a long way, myself and son, it's been a very rich and incredible journey and I really need to change my focus from a typical Western 'achievement' focused one to a more natural "I'm a bit of a good egg and that's all I need or want to be".  It's instilled in us from birth, isn't it, having to acquire successes that are visible and easily recogniseable.  But it's our invisible successes that are worth more; the battles we've survived, the loving relationships we have in our lives, our comfort level with ourselves, the fact that we can look at our kids and wish them well instead of being jealous of them or wishing bad things upon them.  So that's where I need to focus my mind - I'm already where I need to be in myself.  I don't need to constantly protect myself because that doesn't stop bad things happening, they can still happen anyway.  And if something does go wrong or there's a muddle up somewhere along the line I can handle it.  I think I've always thought of 'letting go' meaning you let go of everything, no control over any aspect, no planning ahead, nothing at all.  But I can see now there's a middle road between no control and absolute control and that's the one I'm setting off on now.  I think I've cracked it!  I think that was the main point when I started up the thread - finding that way through the middle.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Storming
« Last post by Twoapenny on Today at 04:35:10 AM »
I'm not sure of the time difference, Lighter, but I hope the hearing goes/has gone well.  I'm hoping an older Southern gentleman will have little time for violent men who threaten and harass recently bereaved women.

Glad that you got your shutters up at last.  Is that all the work on the island done now or will you be going back again?

Three cheers for zero tolerance.  It's just too tiring trying to accommodate other people's unpleasantness - or maybe more specifically their refusal (or inability) to see that what they do is unpleasant.  Nice people grounded in reality welcome - everyone else can move along.  Well done to you, Lighter, you've really pulled out all the stops this last few weeks.  A lot of life in a short space of time and you've come through it admirably, as always xx
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Storming
« Last post by lighter on May 23, 2018, 08:06:00 PM »
Update on cottage.... shutters completed the afternoon I left.  Yay.

I headed to airport early, in case I encountered some kind of sabotage.... like contractor falsely accusing me of smuggling drugs, or whatever his little mind came up with.  So many threats. 

Nothing happened, except my preferred cab driver spent time talking about C....it was weird, and I was having none of that talk.....any relationship involving violence is over for me.  Done.  Fini.  Didn't want to talk about it, but he just kept up.  I know that cabbie feels deep sympathy for C, bc C seeks sympathy out on his best day.....then laughs about it later.

Bug guy never showed, so I set off two bombs and left keys with my renter.... I trust him.  I hope I'm choosing wisely.  He did a great job overseeing C's removal, and went North to watch C board plane, and take off.  This was good, bc C sending texts he got off plane and coming my way.  Meant to scare me.

Nonsensical, but there it is. 

Court hearing for year long restraining order at 9am.  I went through all remaining texts today... Getting clear on what I want to share.  Not much.  Attorney friend said Judge is older Southern gentleman who hates liars and nonsense.   One more reason to be super brief.

I know this is only paper.  The thing is, I have to document properly, and hope it deters stupid lashing out.  Doing less is, I'm, asking for more chais, and crazy.

Zero tolerance is my new norm....at least that's my hope.

Lighter





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I have my hand on my goggles, and scarf, Tupp.  When it's right.....if it happens.... I'm on board, whatever speed you're moving.

Lighter
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Hops!

I've been watching renovated school bus cottages!  I think it's a fabulous idea.

Besides, you'd never be alone....you have your pooch.  And us.

Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / my secret escape fantasy
« Last post by Hopalong on May 23, 2018, 06:02:33 PM »
I'd better stop watching these!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J5pCmj7P5qo

(Been at it for months now, just blundered onto Bob Wells online...)

I'm very unlikely to DO this, but when I feel nervous about my future, the idea of renting out my house and hitting the road does tempt me. Only thing holding me back is fear of being alone.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....Amber, wanna rent a parking place?

xxoo just for fun,
Hops
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Great article thanks for posting.

I can identify with the repetition compulsion in the sense that I would make the decision consistently when faced with the same problem. Next time I can choose differently.

Thanks again for posting Hops. 
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Yes!
It's Wisteria Wednesday (with cinema).

Very good plan, Tupp.
You DO need a day off, likely a couple.

I'm so pleased you're taking a little time to shift gears.
Racing fast is exhilarating until one drives into a wall because
one couldn't steer.

Keep puttering along in your wee buggy.
Ocean's not going anywhere.

xxoo
Hops
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