The Voicelessness and Emotional Survival
Reading List
The following books are recommended by Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board posters. Books mentioned most frequently are listed at the top under “Popular.” Click on the title to view the corresponding Amazon entry.
Popular:
Children
of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting over Narcissistic Parents
by Nina Brown, Ed.D.
Controlling
People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control
You by Patricia Evans
Difficult
Conversations: How to Discuss what Matters Most by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen
The
Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self by Alice
Miller
Loving
the Self-Absorbed: How to Create a More Satisfying Relationship with a
Narcissistic Partner
by Nina Brown, Ed.D.
The
Narcissistic Family : Diagnosis and Treatment
by
Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman and Robert M. Pressman
Stop
Walking on Eggshells; Coping When Someone You Care about Has Borderline
Personality Disorder
by Paul Mason and Randy Kreger
Toxic
Parents : Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life By
Susan Forward, Ph.D.
Trapped
in the Mirror
by Elan Golomb, Ph.D.
The
Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond
by Patricia Evans
Why
Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
by Lundy
Bancroft
Why
Is It Always About You? : The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism
by Sandy Hotchkiss
Women
Who Love Too Much
by Robin Norwood
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Other Recommended
Books:
Adult
Children of Alcoholics : Expanded Edition by Janet Woititz, Ed.D.
The
Artist's Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity by Julia Cameron
Banished
Knowledge : Facing Childhood Injuries by Alice Miller
Boundaries
by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
Codependent
No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
by Melody Beattie
Coping
With Criticism
by Jamie Buckingham
Emotional
Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to
Manipulate You
by Susan Forward, Ph.D.
Emotional
Unavailability : Recognizing It, Understanding It, and Avoiding Its Trap
by Bryn Collins, M.A., L.P.
Excuse
Me, Your Life Is Waiting: The Astonishing Power of Feelings
by Lynn Grabhorn
Forgive
for Good
by Dr. Fred Luskin
The
Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom
by Don Miguel Ruiz
A
General Theory of Love by
Fari Amini, Richard Lannon, and Thomas Lewis
The
GENTLE ART OF VERBAL SELF-DEFENSE 2ND EDITION by Suzette Haden Elgin, Ph.D.
Getting
the Love You Want : A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.
The
Gift of Therapy : An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their
Patients
by Irvin Yalom
The
Golden Ghetto: The Psychology of Affluence by Jessie O’Neill
Healing
the Child Within
by Charles Whitfield, M.D.
Homecoming
: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw
If
You Had Controlling Parents : How to Make Peace with Your Past and Take Your
Place in the World by Dan Neuharth, Ph.D.
I'm
Dying to Take Care of You: Nurses and Codependence: Breaking the Cycles
by Candace Snow
I
Say a Prayer for Me: One Woman's Life of Faith and Triumph by Stanice Anderson
Journal
to the Self by Kathleen Adams
Love's
Executioner : & Other Tales of Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom
Malignant
Self Love - Narcissism Revisited by Samuel Vaknin, Ph.D.
Man's
Search For Meaning by
Viktor E. Frankl
Man
the Manipulator
by
The
Man With The Beautiful Voice: And More Stories from the Other Side of the Couch
by Lillian Rubin, Ph.D.
Men
Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them : When Loving Hurts And You Don't
Know Why
by Susan Forward, Ph.D. and Joan Torres
Mindfulness
in Plain English by Henepola Gunaratana
Mind
Wide Open : Your Brain and the Neuroscience of Everyday Life
by Stephen Johnson
The
Narcissistic / Borderline Couple: A Psychoanalytic Perspective On Marital
Treatment
by Joan Lachkar, Ph.D.
Nasty
People
by Jay Carter, Psy.D.
Peace
Is Every Step : The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life by
Thich Nhat Hanh
People
of the Lie
by M.Scott Peck
The
Peter Pan Syndrome: Men Who Have Never Grown Up by Dan Kiley
Power
vs. Force: The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior by David Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.
Practical
Dreaming: Awakening the Power of Dreams in Your Life by Lillie
Weiss, Ph.D.
Psychic
Vampires: Protection from Energy Predators & Parasites
by Joe Slate, Ph.D.
The
Psychology of Stalking : Clinical and Forensic Perspectives edited by J. Reid Meloy
The
Purpose-Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For? By Rick Warren
7
Paths to God: The Ways of the Mystic
by Joan Borysenko
The
Solo Partner: Repairing Your Relationship on Your Own by Phil Deluca
Stop
Being Manipulated: How to Neutralize the Bullies, Bosses, and Brutes in Your
Life by
George Green, Ph.D. and Carolyn Cotter, MBA
Surviving
a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust,
Boundaries, and Self-Esteem by Kimberlee Roth and Freda Friedman, Ph.D., LCSW
The
Tender Heart: Conquering Your Insecurity by Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D.
Too
Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-By-Step Guide to Helping You Decide
Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum
Too
Nice for Your Own Good : How to Stop Making 9 Self-Sabotaging Mistakes
by Duke Robinson
The
Vein of Gold: The Kingdom of Sound by
Julia Cameron
What
Should I Do with My Life? : The True Story of People Who Answered the Ultimate
Question
by
When
Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold Kushner
When
Good Kids Do Bad Things: A Survival Guide for Parents of Teenagers by
Katherine Gordy Levine and Julie Rubenstein
When
You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends : Resolving the Most Complicated
Relationship of Your Life
by Victoria Secunda
Where Freedom Begins: The Process of Personal Change by Marion Pastor, Ph.D.
Why
People Don't Heal and How They Can
by Caroline Myss, Ph.D.
The
Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in
Work, Love, and Family
by Eleanor Payson, M.S.W.
Writing
as a Way of Healing : How Telling Our Stories Transforms Our Lives
by Louise DeSalvo
Writing
the Mind Alive : The Proprioceptive Method for Finding Your Authentic Voice
by Linda Trichter
Metcalf and Tobin Simon
You
Can't Say That to Me: Stopping the Pain of Verbal Abuse -- An 8-Step Program
by Susan Haden Elgin, Ph.D.
You
Know He's a Keeper, You Know He's a Loser: Happy Endings and Horror Stories from
Real-Life Relationships by Linda Lee Small and Norine Dworkin